Isn't it funny how we dream up the perfect future for our lives even though we can see that everyone around us is living with those bumps in the road that we wish we'll never have?
Girls can probably relate with me a little more on this topic..not to be sexist or stereotypical. But while we grew up playing with dolls and pretending to be house wives with our toy kitchen sets, boys were running around squishing bugs and beating each other up. I think we can all pretty much agree that girls think about getting married and having families much earlier than boys do in life. But on the other hand, once boys get to the point where they actually notice us girls, they too start planning their dream world futures.
We go to college to live out the first part of our dream; this is preparation time for future careers, and for some it is the time to find their soul mate. We begin to decided on our picture perfect job that we think we will have for our entire lives, and a spouse that we will marry and love perfectly until the day we die. But seldom do we imagine what life may really end up being like for us.
Divorce, financial struggles, death, natural disasters; these are things we don't plan on experiencing. Sure we may plan for some of these things financially, but I don't think there is any way to emotionally prepare for things that can and will happen in our lifetime. It is said that a major life changing tragedy happens approximately every seven years. And that is if your lucky; I can think of four in my life so far and I am not 28 years old!
In Happy Endings, the author does a pretty good job at elaborating on the point I am trying to make. We are human, which means we have a naturally sinful disposition. We can't expect all of our dreams to come out picture perfect, it really doesn't even happen that way in the movies these days. I sound pretty pessimistic, but I'm trying to be real with myself. Of course I hope and pray that I live a happy and successful life, so I'll keep dreaming up my perfect future like the rest of the world. =)
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It seems that you're joking in the end of this post. (Hard to tell with typing but the irony of the statement and the smiley face give it away :).)
ReplyDeleteOf course, as you imply, "trying to be real" is important. We can't minister God's love in the world if we have a false view of what love is, that is, if we have a view of love that isn't "real."
I guess I was joking and not joking at the same time. Part of that statement is true because we pretty much always think "it would be nice if.." or "what if things turned out this way in the future.."
ReplyDeleteBut if I know things won't turn out perfect, why should I dream as if they were?
But yes, the irony was definately intended ;)
I like how you mentioned that we expect everything to go as planned but when we really look at what happens in life, things dont always go as planned accordingly. I can definitely reflect on a few times where i have been emotionally broken down and that for me hasnt been seven years apart either!
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